Week 4: Self-care through self-authenticity
By now you have (or are working on) a pretty awesome self-care setup (some are featured in this post):
- From Week 1 you have your miracle morning and evening plus a heightened awareness of your sense of self-worth.
- From Week 2 you worked with self-caring thoughts. You focused on your strengths, practiced silencing the inner critic, set your 3 affirmations, made your “Master-list of Gratitude”, practiced treating yourself because you are doing the best you can, and also practiced patting yourself on the back for a job well done.
- From Week 3 you learned a bit about grounding and being present through your breath, your feet, and your hands. You kept up with me-time through a chosen weekly activity, created a body-appreciation list, a “My Happy List”, and you began a “Success and Accomplishment”-list.
First you zoned in on your needs through, self-caring thoughts and feelings, affirmations, gratitude, and accomplishments. The second part is: living by these every, single day. You need to know that this takes practice. Especially if you have been out of sync with taking care of yourself in your daily life.
Enter now self-authenticity in week 4. The best way to keep up with the different kinds of self-care you are practicing is to live an authentic everyday-life.
Let’s begin with a brief look at how we can live a more authentic life and what this actually means.
The art of living authentically
And believe me: It is an art. It takes practice – and I am still practicing this every single day. As many of the other things I have introduced to you, it takes a conscious choice to live authentically. It’s something you choose to do. Then you practice, and practice and practice some more, to actually accomplish it on a daily basis. But you also need to know that the benefits of living an authentic everyday life more then make up for the time you put into doing so.
To be authentic means to be genuine, real, and not false or copied. It means to represent one’s true nature and beliefs (which we are working on pinpointing) and to be true to yourself. You can do this by aligning who you are with what you do. As I wrote above: This takes time if you have become out of sync with yourself. So be gentle with yourself and be supportive of yourself. Try - and do your best. Learn and try some more. You can do this.
Before I list the prompts for this week, I would like you to reflect upon the following quotes:
- Brené Brown: “Authenticity is not something we have or don’t have. It’s a practice – a conscious choice of how we want to live. Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
- Dan Millman: “To be authentic literally means to be your own author.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson: “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
- Seuss: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
- Leticia Rae: “When you love yourself, authenticity is inevitable.”
- Brené Brown: “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”
Take a moment – or several – to think about what this means in your life. Living an everyday-life with authenticity entails transparency, genuineness, and matching outer expression with inner experience. When you look at it like this, you can see why being authentic is an important aspect of self-care. It makes it possible for you to live…
And that’s why it’s the focus of this week’s prompts.
The prompts to get you focused on authenticity in your life
- Monday 19: Today I am taking one thing from “My Happy List” and making time for it this week. Also: Today I honor my authentic self. I am making a list of how I live – or how I can live more – in accordance with my authentic self.
- Tuesday 20: “I know my core values and I live by them”. First I’ll be listing 5 of my most significant core values. Secondly I’ll be adding a sentence to each value explaining how I live – or how I can live more – by this value in my everyday-life. (If you need a list of common core values; you can visit here)
- Wednesday 21: Today I am going to create “My Ideal Daily Routine”. Hour-by-hour: How does a great everyday look for me? What does it include? And when?
- Thursday 22: Looking at “My Ideal Daily Routine” – taking my core values and authenticity into account – I am putting into words 3 things I can do to achieve my ideal routine daily.
- Friday 23: I choose to focus on learning instead of failure. Today I am taking 3 “failures” from the last month and translating them into learning. From now on there is no failure, only: “What did I learn”.
- Saturday 24: “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are”. Today I am putting into words 3 things I need to accept about myself in order to live more authentic.
- Sunday 25: Finishing the week strong by writing this sentence 5-10 times: “I choose to be happy, proactive, and grateful while loving, accepting, and caring for myself”.
I am really looking forward to this week – and also dreading it a bit, because I know I need to work on living more authentically. But reminding myself that I can’t change what I don’t acknowledge. So here goes!
Thank you for making this challenge such an awesome experience for me to host. With the risk of repeating myself: I am so inspired and motivated by the great and brave work you all are doing. Many of you are moving mountains within yourself – and that is a great way to achieve a happier everyday life. Remember this when the work is difficult and if it hurts. Over time the benefits will outweigh the costs. And the difficulty will transform into ease and pain will fade into loving acceptance of your authentic self. Give it time. Do the work and reap your self-care harvest.
Have a great week.
Take care of yourself. You deserve it!